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In Memoriam: Mary Anne Needham 1945 - 2012

Mary Anne Needham

Mary Anne Needham

Mary Needham died on March 8th 2012 after a long battle with cancer in her 67th year.

A Service of Thanksgiving for her life was held at the Parish Church of St Mary Magdalene, Cottingham, Northamptonshire followed by committal in the churchyard on Wednesday March 21st 2012. A memorial service was held at the same time at the Anglican Church of St George, Vernet les Bains, Pyrénées, France.

The Memorial Service

Parish Church of St Mary Magdalene

St Mary Magdalene Church, Cottingham: a view across the village from Blind Lane

Mary's funeral: Order of Service

The Order of Service

Sentences

Welcome & opening prayer

Reading

Revelation, Chapter 21, verses 1 - 7

Hymn

"Lord of all hopefulness, Lord of all joy"

Poem - read by Anne Davison

'The Glory of the Garden'
by Rudyard Kipling

OUR England is a garden that is full of stately views,
Of borders, beds and shrubberies and lawns and avenues,
With statues on the terraces and peacocks strutting by;
But the Glory of the Garden lies in more than meets the eye.
For where the old thick laurels grow, along the thin red wall,
You'll find the tool- and potting-sheds which are the heart of all
The cold-frames and the hot-houses, the dung-pits and the tanks,
The rollers, carts, and drain-pipes, with the barrows and the planks.

And there you'll see the gardeners, the men and 'prentice boys
Told off to do as they are bid and do it without noise ;
For, except when seeds are planted and we shout to scare the birds,
The Glory of the Garden it abideth not in words.
And some can pot begonias and some can bud a rose,
And some are hardly fit to trust with anything that grows ;
But they can roll and trim the lawns and sift the sand and loam,
For the Glory of the Garden occupieth all who come.

Our England is a garden, and such gardens are not made
By singing:-" Oh, how beautiful," and sitting in the shade
While better men than we go out and start their working lives
At grubbing weeds from gravel-paths with broken dinner-knives.
There's not a pair of legs so thin, there's not a head so thick,
There's not a hand so weak and white, nor yet a heart so sick
But it can find some needful job that's crying to be done,
For the Glory of the Garden glorifieth every one.

Then seek your job with thankfulness and work till further orders,
If it's only netting strawberries or killing slugs on borders;
And when your back stops aching and your hands begin to harden,
You will find yourself a partner In the Glory of the Garden.
Oh, Adam was a gardener, and God who made him sees
That half a proper gardener's work is done upon his knees,
So when your work is finished, you can wash your hands and pray
For the Glory of the Garden that it may not pass away!

And the Glory of the Garden it shall never pass away !

Tribute: Irene Beadsworth
My first recollection of Mary is of a pretty petite 5 year old on her first day at school. I thought she was so cute with her mass of thick brown curls and the dimple on her chin. The curls, I found out later, had been created by Mum for the occasion! Her hair though remained her crowning glory for the rest of her life!

Mary and Laurie were brought up in the little cottage beside this church, being the third generation of Beadsworths to live there. In her early teens Mary became an avid Pat Boone fan and warmly accepted me as a member of the family on the strength that I was also a fan and had actually seen him in a live show. Mary and I went to several of his shows over the years. The highlight for Mary was when he picked her out of the audience and danced with her!

After leaving school Mary took up an apprenticeship in hairdressing and went on to be a very accomplished hairdresser, later becoming the manager of Charles Gordon in Corby. Sadly Mary and Laurie lost their Mum when Mary was only 18. She had to grow up very quickly, taking on the running of the home for her and her Dad.

Mary joined the RFW (Rockingham Forest Wheelers) at the age of 15. In those early days she begged and borrowed bikes from other members and learned the joys of cycling the hard way. I can remember my Dad, who was a lorry driver, coming home saying that he'd gone into Kate's Cabin on the A1 and found two sorry looking young people - cold, dripping wet and lost - Mary and her friend Eileen Jackson! The bikes went into the back of the lorry and the girls were brought home safe and sound. The Wheelers have played a huge part in Mary and Norman's lives. They have both worked hard for the club and have been rewarded with many long and lasting friendships both here in the UK and also in Europe.

Mary met and fell in love with Norman through the club and they married in October 1968. They have had a very full and exciting life together, travelling to more places than I have time to mention. But most of all Mary loved her "other" home in the beautiful Pyrénées. There they made many friends over the years and as I speak in a church in Vernet les Bains a congregation of friends are holding a service in memory of Mary: singing the same hymns and also reading her favourite poem.

Mary lived a fit and healthy life. She had many interests and hobbies: cycling, ski-ing, walking, sailing, yoga, sewing, cooking and, last but not least, her passion for gardening which she inherited from her Dad. Time stood still for Mary when she was on the garden. She worked sometimes for twelve hours, only taking a break to have a cuppa and a sandwich and also with a labrador by her side.

Whatever Mary undertook to do she did it the right way. She read the instructions, she took the lessons and she practiced until she got it right. If something was worth doing it was worth doing properly but she never did get that sponge cake right.

Mary didn't suffer fools gladly. She hated injustice and has on more than one occasion brought a bully down to size. Family was very important to Mary. She has always loved family get-togethers and has been a wonderful aunt, great aunt and godmother. She leaves a huge void in all our lives and I personally have not only lost my sister-in-law but a very special friend.

Continued in column 2...


Reflection Music

'Friendly Persuasion' by Pat Boone

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Mary
A Compilation of Tributes - Owen Davison
We are here today to celebrate Mary's life. We have heard from Irene, her sister in law and listened to a rendition of her favourite poem, I am now here to try and condense memories of 67 years into 7 minutes.

The large number of people here today, is a tribute to Mary and also Norman. They range from those who have known her all her life and were entrusted on pain of death to take care of her on her first day at school, though school friends, Friends and colleagues she met during her career, many members of Rockingham Forest Wheelers Cycling Club and a host of other friends and family from this country and overseas. Mary would have been very touched to know that there is a parallel service of remembrance at St Georges in Vernet les Bains.

We all have our separate memories. I speak for myself. I remember a little sparrow (like Edith piaff,) who always had a smile and was always willing to lend a hand if she could. Her courage during her last illness was immense and an example to us all. She was very self effacing. How wrong was she? All of you here today, the 150 cards, and many e-mails, (which would have been more if Norman had told everyone his email address had changed) bear tribute to the high regard in which she was held.

Her garden was one of Mary's great loves, she inherited green fingers from her father, but trusted no one else in her garden, I remember one year she flew home from France for two days in order to harvest her main crop of potatoes, neither Laurie or I were considered competent enough to do it.

Many of you will not know that Mary had an immaculate driving record. No accidents, scrapes or convictions in 50yrs of driving. Apart from travel and cycling of which you will hear later Mary's other great love for the past 14yrs was Becky the Labrador who sadly passed away less than two days after Mary.

Norman and I have extracted some extracts from some of the many letters and emails he received.

First from her niece who remembers Mary's laughter at some silly thing or other usually things that Norman had done, like go on a camping holiday without the tent.

From Frank O'Conner in Canada: "Mary was such a lovely person, always so kind and generous in her dealings with other people, and always with a gentle smile. A great gardener with the greenest thumb, she could and did make everything grow and her table never lacked for home grown vegetables and fruit. The cycling fraternity has lost a stalwart friend and the Rockingham Forest Wheelers will not be the same without her presents at the club. Ever present behind the canteen counter she must have served every cyclist for more than a hundred miles around, and all this for close on fifty years. That is dedication of the highest order. These cyclists will share in your sense of loss too. I have such fond memories of Mary and yourself when you came sailing with me in the Bahamas, the sun and sand and fun. My fondest memory is being on the beach at Allan's Cay teaching Mary to snorkel and thereby enjoying the underwater world."

Some thoughts from Norman: "Since 1960 Mary has been a friend and since 1968 a companion and loving wife, always doing everything together. We have felt privileged to have had another life in France for the past 22yrs and I know that Mary will be missed in many parts of France.

Holidays were especially precious to us always adventurous before we were married cycling around the coast of Brittany, cycling in Norway one year and then driving the length of Norway to the north cape, returning through Finland and Sweden, with a slight delay when the engine blew up, 10 glorious sailing holidays in the Bahamas, in a Moody 42, always finding a church on Sunday, more than 50 skiing holidays in Europe and North America, never without incident, Youth Hostelling around England, many walking holidays around the Cornish and Welsh coastal paths, and many holidays in the Lakes-always with a Labrador. We had many adventures during a drive behind the 'Iron Curtain' especially in Hungary and Romania. Also through the Atlas Mountains and finally getting stuck in the sand in the Sahara. Many enjoyable twining trips to Velbert and Chaellerault since 1972. There was always a bed in our house for whoever turned up.

Mary never lost her faith. She managed to keep me under control, often with the aid of the 'Beadsworth look' as no one else could. So in conclusion I will have a very difficult job without her but promised her that I'd be OK and will always love her."

Hymn

Dear Lord and Father of mankind

Prayers

The Lord's Prayer

Hymn

All things bright and beautiful

Commendation



St George

The Church of St George; Vernet les Bains


The family thank you for your presence here today and invite you to join them for refreshments at The Hunting Lodge following the interment.

Donations in lieu of flowers are for Cransley Hospice and Macmillan Cancer Support (Northamptonshire) and may be placed in the offatory plate in church or forwarded to the Funeral Directors:

The funeral arrangements were carried out by J Stamp & sons, 'The Chestnuts', 15 Kettering Road, Market Harborough, Leicestershire. LE16 8AN.

Acknowledgement

Our thanks to Reverend David Phillips, Priest-in-Charge of the Anglican Church of St George, Vernet les Bains, Pyrénées, France for providing the image of the church which is reproduced above.

Footnote

Rudyard Kipling, the author of Mary's favourite poem, also enjoyed stays in Vernet les Bains. The town has dedicated a self-guided tour around the central district called the Kipling Circuit to celebrate the centenary of his 1911 visit.


Page added: April 28th 2012


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